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What if every single person you meet in your life you've met before in other lives? Imagine that for a moment. No one is a stranger. Everyone is a soul-mate acting out every conceivable sort of relationship.

It is like taking two actors and putting them on a stage then giving them a few hundred different plays to act out together. In one play, actor A is a father and actor B is a daughter. In another play, actor A is a soldier and actor B is also a soldier who happens to kill actor A. In another play, actors A and B fall in love and have seven kids. In another play, actors A and B never meet until right before they die. In yet another play, actor A is a wife who is beaten by her husband--who happens to be actor B. In another play, actor B is a wealthy entertainer who gets killed by a crazed bum on the street who happens to be actor A. In still another life actors A and B end up being a songwriting team, as well as gay lovers, who write several hit Broadway musicals. Then there's the life A and B lived together in the jungles of Sumatra. It was primitive times and A and B were hunting. A slipped on a steep ledge on the side of a mountain and breaks his leg. B is afraid to climb down and try to save A, and he leaves A to die.

As you can see, the possibilities are endless for plays for the two actors to play out together. We have soul-mates because monologues get boring. We want a play with more than one actor so that we can see and experience the drama of interaction. Our soul-mates are those fellow actors in the same acting company that we signed up for. We've contracted to create as many dramas as we can so we can experience interaction from as many different perspectives as possible so that a wholeness of experience can be achieved.

So if there is someone in our lives who appears to be an enemy, they may have been our lover in another play (life). And our lover may have been our slave master or murderer in another life. If someone trusts us completely they may have betrayed us in another life and those who betray us may very well have been betrayed by us before.

Actors are a tight bunch. When they're not on stage they have their own community and they are themselves within that community. But once on stage they assume the role they agreed to play. That role may be to fight another actor, or it may be a love scene with another actor, or whatever; but the good actor knows it's just a role and doesn't let the drama affect their relationship off stage. They know the difference between drama and just being themselves.

Can you see what would happen if the actors got the drama and their "real relationships" mixed up? One actor could really get upset with another actor who is playing their part, not remembering that it's just a part.

So after those original two actors take a break after say fifty plays and they get off-stage their "normal off-stage relationship" suddenly becomes clouded with all the drama from those fifty plays. Memories of betrayal and murder and victimhood and lust and companionship still linger and subtly influence their off-stage relationship.

After doing several hundred plays together, the two actors find it even more difficult to return to their normal off-stage selves. There have been so many roles that they've played that they meld with the off-stage self and a new self is created that is an amalgamation of the original off-stage self and all the many roles played. Eventually this amalgamation becomes what is considered the real self and the original real off-stage self is forgotten. Self-realization can be seen as seeing through the amalgamation and finding that forgotten self. Finding our own forgotten self allows us to see through the amalgamation of others and express love to their forgotten selves. Once we have remembered our original off-stage forgotten selves then we can see and better appreciate all those many plays we've done together and this opens up the potential for a whole new spectrum of plays to do.