Asamee Blog

In the old Lakota society only the woman in a marriage had the power of divorce. And all she had to do to divorce her husband was to kick him out of her teepee. All teepees and communal property were owned by the women. Men only owned their horses and weapons. Everything else belonged to the women. And only the woman could grant a divorce. Men had no say in the matter--although if the man wanted a divorce bad enough he could engage in behavior that helped convince the woman to divorce him.

Real marriage or divorce happens only within one's heart. It only involves ONE person.

There is a little prostitution involved in practically every relationship. Prostitution is merely a means of exchange and we all are involved in exchanges that have subtle hints of prostitution at certain levels.

With unconditional love there is no exchange. Exchange is always conditional! Prostitution is when we exchange our sacredness for power (money). Most all of us do that on a daily...nay, hourly rate. So when we talk about prostitution we are really talking about the degree of prostitution that is acceptable. While we prostitute ourselves constantly in little subtle ways, we cross the line of acceptable prostitution when we exchange sex and money. There is a great hypocrisy involved in condemning prostitution on one side of the line and not on the other. It's all the same thing. It's an energy exchange.

With unconditional love there is no exchange! The holy bonds of matrimony are a condition! Divorce is a condition. When you unconditionally love someone, none of that other stuff matters one iota. If you unconditionally love someone, then chances are that you're not married to that someone because then your love would not be unconditional anymore. That's how unconditional unconditional can be.

With unconditional love there is no exchange! There is no giving and taking, there is merely a ONE-directional flow of energy. 99 percent of the sex humans engage in is an exchange! One percent of the sex (actually, less) is an expression of unconditional love--WHICH IS NOT AN EXCHANGE. Can you even imagine sex without any exchange involved? No give or take? Is it even possible? The ancient Hindu believed that this kind of rare sexual expression of unconditional love could bring about incredible enlightenment.

With unconditional love there is no exchange! Think about that. Imagine that. Stretch your thinking to accomodate every tangible result of such a statement.

As long as we are NOT in unconditional love then we are in some form of exchange. That is neither good nor bad but we judge it so in relation to the level of prostitution involved (according to our beliefs in prostitution). And, of course, our beliefs are shaped by our experiences and the experiences of all our aspects. Hopefully, every aspect will have a different perspective. In this way we can gain a whole perspective. That's why everyone--in one life or another--has experienced prostitution and that's also why we have all experienced murder. We are learning and experiencing a system of exchange (duality) so we must experience the whole system for a whole understanding. We must "stand under" all the perspectives.

I've had to learn that I've been a murderer and a no-account worthless son-of-a-bitch, but going beyond that I can see how the exchange patterns create a karma of their own. Once you see them you can them snip them off, so to speak, releasing karma. It's always handy to have a pair of scissors with you when you're out to release karma. Karma is like residue or imprints of exchanges made repeatedly over time. So unconditional love, since it goes beyond exchange, is a way of dissipating and going beyond karma.

By the way, wealth can be created through exchange but true abundance is created through unconditional love.